A bride called us in February, four months out from her September wedding at a barn venue outside Stillwater, and opened with, "I need you to talk me out of feeling embarrassed about this." She and her fiancé don't drink. Neither does her sister, the maid of honor. Her future father-in-law is nineteen years sober. She'd spent three planning meetings with other vendors nodding along to "champagne toast" and "signature cocktail hour" before finally asking one of them, gently, w